Karachi:
We are going to get this out of the way: I live in a joint family. If you do it too, you know exactly what that implies. Experience can be too vast to express with words, but don’t worry, because Durdana de Dila Wali Gali Mein He summed it up in a brief prayer in episode 4. Mujji’s mother was without help, but rightly declared that families do not exchange apologies or gratitude.
If you are even a bit aware of how family relationships work on this side of the world, you may be headed to these words of wisdom. Except, anything sounds wise if it is heard in isolation; It feels ideal, even. But living in a joint family system is not the cake that a stranger could see it.
That said, the end of Dila Wali Gali Mein Not only did he draw the curtain about the love story of Deeju and Mujji, but also brought the general theme, the point of sale of the series, the complete circle. Just ask Deeju and Mujji, whose rock life does not promise nothing more than the reminder that no people of love is without their failures, a reality with which you and I are painfully familiar. In addition to relaxing a love story so that the desperate romantics are launched, tells you the story, and I, and we all combine.
Beyond a type of love
However, unlike Deeju and Mujji, he does not have to marry to understand this fly in the ointment, although the marriage becomes a tempting object to end up. The hurricane blames the butterfly, and all that.
Dila Wali Gali Mein It shows us what it is to be part of a joint family system. He offends the problems in paradise, drawing a polypitic of spiny family heads, annoying relatives and small grudge. Trace fine lines on a smooth canvas before painting it again and again with bold strokes. False perfection envives, just to show him how bitter reality can be.
But like those forgives without saying and grateful, these are not things that you should say out loud. Sometimes, you don’t even allow them to feel them.
As a gear in this machine, you are probably not alien to please all those who breathe the same air as you. There may be times when your home, which for others generally consists of a small family, feels too big for you. It is difficult to evade the sensation when you know that you are being observed and sometimes governed by more than your parents. Makes autonomy conditional.
There may be times when you feel that it is extending too much, pushing the limits that are already blurred for you, letting your space be invaded. But you can’t help it. That is just life for you now, or it has been your life since you were born.
You are used to please your relatives. You enjoy it, even. But you also organize resentment. You can’t help it. The door of his room is open and anyone can enter. Anyone at all.
However, the problem is that it is not right if it comes from a loved one, right? So are things when everyone lives under the same roof.
Surely, they mean well when they impose restrictions on their lifestyle or make their grudges their problem. Surely, there is a positive side for Deeju to be forced to accept the tutoring business of their in -laws to save them the pain of hiring new faculties. Surely, the most reasonable way of these judgments is to court patience and be the biggest person. But how long are you waiting until that patience becomes poisonous?
A resonant theme
Last year, we saw similar patterns in Noor Jahan – A series that took the point home by giving the protagonist and the antagonist the same first name. Although this was an appropriate fusion of politics and domestic power, the hearts of the two series won with the same rhythm and echoed the same message.
Noor Jahan He made us realize that you really don’t know someone until you start living with him, for better or worse. Like Noor Bano, you can easily become a piece on another person’s board, a pawn in another person’s game, until you start playing. But let the fire fight against fire, and everything that among the flames of the catches.
However, it is likely that their domestic struggles are not like the life of Noor Bano that is the life of weapons. It is possible that the common person is not so familiar with dangerous land disputes, blood revenge for blood or long -term schemes, but we understand Sumul’s need to please the only family he knows, we sympathize with the frequency with which Safina swallows her, and we feel Murad’s inability to worry about the speed with which her own loved ones can change.
In the same way, we understand the difficult situation of Deeju and Mujji when it comes to navigating a marriage between two families that ceased to be in friendly terms with each other a long time ago. The result? A home of many people and, consequently, many grudges.
But apart from cynicism, not using the words “sorry” and “thanks” in your home should not always indicate conflict. In fact, it shows how fast the conflict is expected to be resolved, that love reigns about medium words and resentments. Someone in a different part of the world may not understand what our mini-communities could mean for us, but that just matters.
The conflict is an inevitable inconvenience when two people live together, much less much more than that. But what also prevails is the nourished instinct to help each other, to challenge the ups and downs together and face external conflicts together. In the same way that Deeju and Mujji can overcome their differences when their families set aside their contempt and intervene to save the marriage.
Because sometimes, love is not simple. Sometimes, it exists in stirring supermarket trips and disputes over family portraits. Sometimes, he accompanies the stories when lying on his aunt and caramel fighters with his cousins. Sometimes, it is the noise to which you return what distracts you from your personal despair. Sometimes, ‘love’ is a very little word for a heart big enough to hold your family of many.
Do you have something to add to history? Share it in the comments below.
