“I am grateful that I don’t kill me!”
Shama had suppressed the memories of an incident in the university when he had rejected a child’s ‘offer’. The boy had taken it quite hard, and Shama had to suffer constant kitches of his friends when he passed them, as well as verbal harassment in class using derogatory but ambiguous words to attack her.
This had affected Shama, but she never sought help from her family or teachers. She trusted her small group, mostly women, who could not help. He felt vulnerable and anxious during his time after this and was even about to leave.
Now, Shama is working and had thought that the University’s episode was behind her, but the murder of healthy Yousuf by a stalker has caused all the negative feelings she felt so many years ago. She can’t face them and has sought help.
Shama is not the only one affected by the murder of the adolescent. According to a mental health professional in Karachi, the number of girls and women between the ages of 10 and 60 who arrive at the sessions after the murder of Sana Yousuf has been reduced to more than 50 per day.
The mental health professional added that girls and women are experiencing indirect trauma after the adolescent’s murder, which occurs when an individual learns or listens to traumatic events experienced by others, which leads to negative psychological impacts. This can happen through exposure to media, such as news or social networks, and can lead to symptoms similar to those experienced by direct victims of trauma.
*Asthma, who is one of your family’s main income, travels to and from work through public transport. From the murder, it has felt extremely vulnerable and cannot deal with stress, so he approached a mental health professional.
“I travel to work using public transport, and every day I am abused and harassed by random men of all ages. I feel anxious. I can’t share this with my family because they can’t help me and they will feel anxious. I can’t leave my job. It is difficult to work under constant stress.”
She said: “I have never thought about raising my voice. And now with this incident, I will never say anything because I fear that someone can kill me.”
*Farhana, who planned to start a vlog food during his summer vacation. She created an identification and began to raise content without face, but is now reconsidering this.
“I deactivated my account because I am receiving extremely strange comments in my DM. They can’t even see my face, and even then, the comments are afraid. I am afraid that I can offend someone and kill me.”
Sixty years *Marium said, remembering the harassment he experienced when he was younger, “a woman could not walk in a public area without someone throwing a role with her number, inviting her to drink tea or coffee, or simply congratulate her. This is extremely traumatic, especially because I couldn’t tell anyone. I felt ashamed and believing that I would blame me for this. My mother would make my mother. that what did not allow me.
Marium said he was happy not to say anything to these men, who knew what consequences he would have faced. “I’m glad not having a daughter; otherwise, she would have experienced all the abuse in silence.”
Marium said that, despite all the empowerment of girls and women, women and girls are attacked and are vulnerable even today, social networks are just another platform where they can be abused and harassed.
All these women fear that any action that can be interpreted as a rejection can lead to violence. This invisible power is causing fear and stress among women, bringing bad memories.
Umar Hayat, the accused man in the case of murder of healthy Yousuf, is a stalker and stalker who probably has low self -esteem and is a low performance.
Raised in a society that gives children a privileged status based on their kind, some develop a great hoax. They believe in their importance, which is reflected in their parents and others. They begin to believe that they have the right to start their way all the time. The rejection is unacceptable and is a punishable act. Their self -image and inflated ego do not allow them to see women as individuals that only exist if they are linked to a man.
That is why Umar Hayat probably believed that healthy, an consummate, was online trying to get attention and, therefore, should claim it before someone else. His rejection of his ‘offer’ was a crime in his mind that had to be punished.
Abusers and cybercriminals, as Hayat, are thug and generally weak. They have never achieved anything in life and are jealous of those who have done so. They want to master others and improve their social status. They can have low self -esteem and want to feel better with themselves, and the only way they can do this is to try to control others.
Incidents such as the murder of the teenager who was only making her life, making online content, not only to young girls but the older women. It reveals how vulnerable they are, which leads to finding comfort in anonymity, and many withdraw from the public.
In this case, many will withdraw from online spaces, reducing their presence, which can be emboldened to stalkers, abusers and criminals to believe that they have power over women even online. It will also send a message to online users, especially women, that these thugs are more powerful and can cause damage. And in the case of healthy, it came true.
Harassment and online abuse are a global problem for vulnerable, especially children, women and the trans community. According to UN women, “millions of women and girls are affected by digital abuse and technology facilitated violence every year. Studies suggest that between 16 and 58 percent of women have experienced this type of violence. Data from different regions confirm that violence provided by technology against women occurs everywhere.”
The data were simplified by UN women, in regions that highlight the seriousness of the situation: 50% of women over 18 years have experienced some type of abuse facilitated by technology in their life from 12 countries in Eastern Europe and Central Asia; 60% of women’s users on the Internet in the Arab states have experienced online violence and 28% of the data collected from five countries of sub -Saharan Africa.
Worldmetrics.org data reveal that approximately 41% of women and 37% of men have experienced cyberestalking in their lives. Trans community data is not available. In addition, he adds that more than 70% of cyberer -person victims experience significant emotional anguish, and 60% of cybetting victims also experience an out -of -line harassment. However, only 1 in 3 victims of Cyberstalking report the incident to the police.
According to an investigation by Plan International and CNN, as the same, who gathered data from 600 women and girls between 13 and 25 years in nine countries discovered that girls and women are frequently harassed online and 1 out of 10 (11%) ‘faced harmful online experiences on a daily basis or almost daily’, while 40% of them have reported that they have been harassed at least once a month.
Laws can help protect people online, but the most important thing is that actions are needed that can dissuade abusers, stalkers and other criminals to pursue and harass others online.
Online allies, including men, can be created to help encourage and empower young people, women and trans people to feel safe and remain online. If a threat arises, they can help counteract it by identifying and shame the perpetrators and quickly notifying the authorities.
Authorities need to develop and enforce a system that not only protects people online but also out of line, because, as we have seen in the unfortunate case of healthy Yousuf, online threats can translate into the real world and out of line with mortal consequences.
It is time to make social networks safe for vulnerable people.
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